Feeling broken inside makes it hard to trust someone in the world.
But did you ever stop and think that life is too short to not forgive others?
According to psychologists, almost every person feels broken inside more than two times a month.
Before deciding to never talk to someone again, think about 3 reasons why they made you feel like that.
Which Are 3 Reasons People Hurt You?
1. UNDERSTAND THAT PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES.
Now, this doesn’t excuse them from hurting you, but you have to realize that humans have complex emotions and thoughts, and no one is perfect. Maybe the person didn’t mean to hurt you, and didn’t realize the consequences of their actions until it was too late. Even if the relationship or friendship ended, perhaps it was for the best, and you can decide to remain grateful for the lessons and memories rather than close yourself off from future relationships.
Try to see things from the person’s perspective, and maybe you can gain some new insight on the pain that will allow you to forgive the person in time.
2. DON’T ASSUME EVERYONE IS THE SAME.
Maybe you just got out of a relationship with someone who betrayed you, and therefore have a skewed opinion of what other people are like. This could hinder you from forming relationships with others, but don’t allow it to. Remember to use your logical brain and keep an open mind when it comes to meeting others. Not everyone is out to hurt you, and not everyone will betray your trust. There are good people out there, but you’ll never cross their path if you don’t even get out on the road to find them.
3. LEAVE THE PAST WHERE IT BELONGS.
If you bring the past with you wherever you go, it will always haunt you and stir up bad memories. In order to move on and learn to trust again, you have to leave the past behind you and accept that you can’t change it. All you can do is learn from it, and hope to meet better people that will appreciate and cherish your feelings and not take advantage of you. Dragging the past with you will only weigh you down and make it that much harder to develop solid relationships with good people.
You might feel like you’ll never trust again, but you can learn to open your heart and allow yourself to be vulnerable after you’ve given yourself time. Take things slowly and keep your guard up in the beginning if you have to, but also know when to knock down the walls that separate you from others. Take a chance on people that you have a good feeling about, because you can only get over your past once you embrace the future and turn the pain into power.